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The 5 Deadly Sins of Verbal Processing

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In the intricate tapestry of human communication, verbal processing stands out as a vibrant thread, weaving thoughts and ideas into spoken words. For individuals who are naturally inclined towards verbal expression, the act of speaking is not merely a means of communication but a fundamental part of their cognitive process. However, like any other mode of communication, verbal processing is not without its challenges.


5 Common Pitfalls of Verbal Processing 

1. Talking Over Others

We verbal processors are notorious for thinking out loud, right? But sometimes, our enthusiasm to share can unintentionally drown out the voices of others. It’s important to remember to hit the pause button occasionally and let others chime in. Active listening is our friend here. Trust me, giving others space to speak not only fosters better conversations but also shows that we value their input.

2. Lack of Clarity

Ever had that “Aha!” moment when you realize you’ve gone off on a tangent and left everyone else behind? Verbal processors may find themselves jumping from one topic to another without providing sufficient context or structure, leaving their audience bewildered. Guilty as charged! To avoid this, try organizing your thoughts before diving into a conversation. Take a breath, outline your key points, and make sure your ideas flow logically. Your audience will thank you for it.

3. Ignoring Non-Verbal Cues

Okay, hands up if you’ve ever been so focused on what you’re saying that you completely miss the puzzled looks or raised eyebrows from your listeners. This oversight can lead to misunderstandings and misinterpretations, hindering effective communication. Yep, been there, done that.

Let’s make a pact to pay attention to those non-verbal cues. They’re like secret codes that can help us gauge how our message is being received. Trust me, it’s a game-changer. Verbal processors can overcome this challenge by honing their ability to recognize and respond to non-verbal cues. By paying attention to subtle shifts in body language and vocal intonation, verbal processors can enhance their understanding and connection with others.

4. Impulsiveness

Ah, the impulsive blurts that we sometimes regret later. It happens to the best of us. But here’s the thing: a moment of pause can work wonders. Before letting those words fly, take a beat to think about how they might land. The rapid-fire nature of verbal processing can sometimes give rise to impulsiveness in communication.

Verbal processors may find themselves blurting out thoughts without fully considering the consequences or the impact on others. This tendency towards impulsivity can result in saying things that are later regretted or causing unnecessary conflict. To counteract this tendency, verbal processors can practice mindfulness in communication. Taking a moment to pause and reflect before speaking allows verbal processors to consider their words carefully and choose their responses thoughtfully.

5. Overwhelming Others

We verbal processors have this uncanny ability to pack a ton of information into a short span of time. But sometimes, our enthusiasm can be a bit overwhelming for others, especially those who need a moment to process before responding. Constantly bombarding others with information can lead to fatigue and disengagement, undermining effective communication. Let’s remember to dial it back occasionally, allowing for pauses and inviting others to join in the conversation. It’s all about finding that sweet spot where everyone feels heard and valued.


Verbal processing is indeed a valuable mode of communication that allows us to express ourselves with clarity and gusto. But hey, nobody’s perfect, right? We all have our quirks. The key is to be aware of our tendencies and actively work on improving our communication skills. So, fellow verbal processors, let’s keep cultivating those active listening skills, honing our clarity, tuning into those non-verbal cues, practicing mindfulness, and adjusting our pacing. Together, we can elevate our communication game and foster deeper connections with those around us. After all, effective communication is all about that beautiful dance of speaking and listening, understanding, and being understood.


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